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How To Achieve an Orgasm From Anal Sex

Anal orgasm? Is this even possible? This might be a very delicate topic for some of you since we can’t ignore the fact that our society has left some cruddy effects on how we view some aspects of sex. Anal sex has still remained hush-hush for many people today. However, it is very true that some women can only achieve orgasms through anal sex.

The anus: a little-known erogenous zone

The anus is a very erogenous zone. It is very sensitive and rich in nerve endings which can cause great sensations. It is usually stimulated with the fingers, tongue or penis. For this reason, anal sex, when done well, can be fun and intense. It is even possible to reach an anal orgasm. Remember that the vagina and rectum are only separated by a thin wall.  In women, anal intercourse stimulates certain areas of the vagina. Anal sex is not something we can practice within five minutes, it’s not quick sex, it requires dedication, patience and time. Therefore, we must give it time.

The following tips will greatly help you to achieve anal orgasms:

Before anything: Be clean

It is very important to have good personal hygiene before practicing anal sex. It is recommended that you thoroughly clean the anus to avoid release of stool during anal intercourse. To do this, you should use an ear syringe , a tool designed specifically to clean the rectum. If you do not want to use an ear syringe, just use mild soap and slowly insert your finger into the rectum to wash manually.

Getting started: advice to men

Massage her. Look for a good way to relax your partner “Knead her back, her hips, buttocks and neck.” After a sensual massage, the woman may be languid and open; available for any fantasies.

Kiss the pelvis or buttocks of your partner, slide along the gluteal cleft. You can also linger on the perineum, without abandoning her clitoris. Touching these spots can have an overwhelming effect that will set the stage for grand finale. These touches heat up the entire genital area and the pelvic floor becomes full of blood.

You can now start with a cunnilingus (oral stimulation of the vagina) before moving to rimming (oral stimulation of the anus). Proceed fondly always. You can stimulate multiple areas at once: lower abdomen, clitoris, breasts, crotch…

Since the anus is not an area intended for penetration, it must be expanded to allow easy passage of the penis without pain; with a dildo, stapon or finger. Put some lubricant on your finger and gradually insert it in the anus with circular movements. Digital stimulation (using the finger) helps prepare and expand the anus before penetration. It also titillates and increases pleasure during vaginal penetration.

Replace the lubricant if necessary and go easy. In all cases, both partners must be patient and relaxed. I recommend that you caresses her anus, making slow circular movements while gradually entering the lubricated finger.

Slowly stimulate her vagina, clitoris, breasts and other erogenous zones as you push your finger into her anus. The idea here is to get you wet and warmed up for penetration. With stimulation, the anus will expand.

Another way to stimulate the anus: use a sex toy. The butt plug helps dilate the anus thoroughly and better prepare it for anal penetration. The end of the plug is designed to easily enter the anus and expand gradually. Put some lubricant on the tip of the plug to further facilitate penetration. Push the plug in slowly with one hand as you play with her vagina and clitoris with the other.

Once the anus is dilated, you can proceed with anal penetration. First, you should lubricate the penis. Insert the penis gradually, first the glans then the whole shaft, while stimulating the clitoris and other erogenous zones, such as breasts. If you introduce the penis completely in one go, it is possible that your partner might feel pain or discomfort. 

The penetration must be done in stages and at each stage it is appropriate to pause so that the anus relaxes and expands. Proceed gently: no sudden movements. She should set the pace and guide you through.

When you enter with the tip of your penis in your girl’s anus, do not move for several seconds, until the initial tension goes and she relaxes. Kiss her neck, caress her clitoris or breasts, tell her things in the ear, stimulate her and make her comfortable.

Once she is relaxed, you can begin to penetrate gently introducing gradually the penis while you both enjoy the sensations such penetration generates. For her, the experience will be something intense and enjoyable.

Patience is key, though in porn movies we see these women being penetrated in the anus with an intensity similar to that used during vaginal sex, the reality is quite different. We must go slowly, slow generates a lot of fun. For her, it will be rewarding to feel how the penis advances more and explores unknown areas.

When you’re both ready, you can increase the speed a little. 

The sphincters must acclimatize, once they are released, keep going!” Finally, make as many breaks as needed and feel free to talk. Enjoy those moments when thrusting back and forth. 

Remember to always stimulate the erogenous parts of her body such as her clitoris and vagina. When penetrating the anus, you can use your hands to stimulate her clitoris and even penetrate her vagina. This will lead to a very intense anal pleasure accompanied by a vaginal or clitoral orgasm. The sensations are increased tenfold for both partners.

Of course, this all only work if you can get her in the mood for anal sex in the first place. That’s what you can learn in Jack’s BJ Seduction, the step by step guide to persuading her to try (and love) both oral and anal – just like pornstars do (but for real).

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