Many women needlessly worry about their performance in bed. You too may worry a lot about whether or not you’re going to please him – from wondering if you can give him a mind blowing blow job, to how it feels to him when you ride him. The fear of being more inexperienced can really stress you out!
To make matters worse, a lot of guys like to brag about how experienced they are. Trust me. A truly experienced guy will not try to convince you of that because he doesn’t need to say that to you – he doesn’t need to brag. A truly experienced guy is more likely to be a bit mysterious about his sexual partners. If you ask him, the truly experienced guy may be a bit reluctant to tell you because he wouldn’t want to intimidate you or make you feel pressured.
So, if your man likes to brag about how experienced he is, there is a really good chance that he probably isn’t. Also, he may be saying that in order to impress you because he thinks it will. Guys are usually idiots when it comes to knowing what to say and not say when it comes to women! What is really going on inside your man’s mind may help you with any nervous jitters…
The point is that if your man likes to brag about being more experienced, secretly inside of him what is going on is that he’s concerned about his own ability in bed. This is a good thing! Why? Because a guy who is really not that experienced but who is trying to pretend that he is experienced is going to work even harder in order to prove how experienced he is. Any guy who tries to convince you of how experienced he is sets himself up for having to prove it.
So, go along with it and enjoy! Since he is more experienced – embellish the thought. He should enjoy showing you things or doing things that perhaps you haven’t experienced before.
Any guy with a lot of experience knows that every woman is different. He also knows that rubbing the clit of one girl is going to have a completely different effect when he does the exact same thing to another girl. In other words, make him prove that he is experienced!
Any guy with experience knows that even with the same girl, that one time she may like something done just a certain way, but another time, she may want something else. The point is that when a guy brags that he is experienced, what he is really saying is that he can get you off no matter what and that he intimately knows how a woman’s body works. He knows that he is like a simple on/off switch, but that you are more like an instrument panel of a rocket ship! But he also knows that your rocket can’t be launched with the same sequence of buttons pushed every time!
When a man brags about being very experienced, he’s actually setting himself up to be a pleaser! Therefore, let him do the work! In reality, all of the pressure is on him if he makes you feel that he has much more experience than you.
Now that you realize that your man has actually set up the situation in your favor, instead of his own, what can you do?
Be honest. When he starts to do something that you don’t like, be tactful, but tell him. There are guys that believe they’re great in bed, but they never had a women tell them the truth! These type of guys are the worst, because they haven’t learned to listen to any woman’s body language, or even her moans and groans. He has no clue how to read women! For this type of lover, tell him the truth and don’t be shy about it.
So just be honest, and open. Honesty and openness in bed are great aphrodisiacs. Don’t be afraid to direct him and tell him exactly what you want. If he is truly experienced, then it shouldn’t bother him at all. If he is not that experienced but is trying to act like he is, then his ego may get a little bruised, but at least he will do what you want him to do.
The other thing that you can do is to understand that experience doesn’t even really count or matter for that matter. Many women who are experienced are fucking lousy lovers! And many inexperienced women are fantastic. There’s no rule. Just because someone had a lot of experience doesn’t mean they learned anything if they’re not observant and sexually intelligent.
What does it take to be a good lover to a man? It’s really all about reacting to us, and doing the things that we like and when we want it. So, if we tell you to deep throat us, don’t hesitate. Just do it. Expect it. Encourage us to tell you what we really want by enthusiastically doing what we want.
That’s a huge turn on for your man. Also, it will probably really get him hard and ready for action. The other point is to look for our reaction for whatever you are doing. If you’re giving your man a blowjob, do your best to look him in the eyes and see what is working or not. Pay attention to his moans and groans, and don’t be afraid to mix it up.
Everyone likes a little surprise! Even during sex. So, if you’re sucking his cock really good, stop for a moment, pull his cock out of your mouth, and just stroke it a few times and moan with delight. That’s a huge turn on. And then instead of going back to town on it, seductively lick the entire shaft down to his balls and then lightly lick all around them. Then go back to town on it!
That’s just an example of what you could do. There are many other things that you can do in order to spice it up. The key is to do have fun, experiment with what he likes and doesn’t like, and to not worry at all that he has more experience than you. Just forget about it. Worrying will only make you perform worse. Try tuning into what I call “the zone” where you don’t think about anything and instead just go wild like a total animal. Still, you have to “lead” him into the zone so you’re both in tune and in the same frequency.
Another thing you should think about… IF he’s a really experienced guy, then your INEXPERIENCE … can be very, very attractive. You should even downplay your experience and act NAIVE, as if you don’t really know what you are doing (but YOU SHOULD be knowing what you’re doing – so go read my book). A bit of naivite is very attractive. Especially if he is OLDER than you are. Then he’ll love that you are younger… and that’s the thing you should work on. Not worrying about his experience but ACTING even younger than you are, unspoiled beauty waiting to get FU**ED like you’ve never been before… And the best way to do that is by being TIGHT. So go SQUAT and work on your body as much as possible. Like this chick in the photo.
He can be as experienced as you want but THIS will keep his cock up all night. Now, of course, if you’ve got absolutely NO skill at all, then your hot, young body isn’t worth much just by itself. Still, it’s a plus. Just forget about his experience and figure out a way how to make yourself seem NAIVE, INNOCENT… and TALENTED. If you have a lot of experience with guys, it’s NEVER a good idea to show it. Instead, seem like you have no idea what you are doing but you are just BORN to DEEP THROAT and you’re super talented. That’s the story he wants to believe in! Men just want stories. So sell him what he wants to believe, girl.
Your blowjob instructor,
Jack