The truth is that men most want their wives and girlfriends to be total sluts in bed, but angels outside the bedroom. If your guy says that he doesn’t agree with that, he might be bisexual, or gay!
The point is that your guy might be afraid to REALLY let you know what he likes and what he doesn’t like because he’s afraid of what you might think about him. Even worse, he may be worried that you would leave him if you knew the truth.
This is why one night stands are usually so appealing to guys – they can get what they want without the fear of rejection, or losing their girlfriend. But isn’t it ironic that men will more likely cheat if what they want is ridiculed and rejected?
And so it is best if you can just drop all of the judgments about your guy and fully accept whatever he like and wants.
If it is really out there and dangerous or beyond perverted, then that’s going to be something that you’ll have to make a judgment call on. But that has got to be a very, very small percentage of the population. For the most part, all your guy needs is to know that you are unconditionally non-judgmental about what he really wants in bed.
Let it turn you on. Let what he wants turn you on. There is nothing more intimate and connecting than when one partner reveals some deep, dark secret sexual fantasy, and the other partner GETS TURNED ON BY IT.
He may have been keeping it to himself forever, and finally he has found a women who will not only understand, but will want to be a part of his fantasy.
Communication is absolutely the most important aspect to any good sex life. So, be open to what he wants!
Let’s break this topic down into 10 things that men want in bed, but may be afraid to let you know.
- He wants you to be a total slut in bed.
I have never, ever, ever heard ONE GUY in my entire life EVER say to me, “Jack, I have a problem. My wife / girlfriend is too slutty. What should I do???”
There may be some guys who would say that outwardly because they have some warped religious belief about it, but I guarantee you, behind the scenes, religion or not, guys want their women to be total sluts.
We need to soften the negativity around the word slut! It’s a good thing! It’s not bad! Think of the word slut as actually meaning, “A sexy, beautiful, sexual, alive woman who loves sex and who exudes sensuality.”
Who wouldn’t want to be that? Every guy wants to be with a woman who loves sex.
So, be a good little slut to your guy! He’ll love you for it.
- He wants you to be totally uninhibited.
This point goes right along with being a good slut. A good slut is totally uninhibited, and never judges herself in a negative way. She feels free to express her wants and desires, no matter how slutty they may seem to be!
- He wishes that you would like anal.
If you are a younger woman, this may gross you out, but it’s true. Most guys love anal, and if they don’t now, they probably will later in life.
There is nothing quite as naughty and slutty than having great anal sex. It is probably even more intimate than vaginal sex because it’s just so, naughty! The word “naughty” has got to be changed too. Being naughty is a good thing!
- They want you to crave their cum in your mouth, in your pussy, and in your ass.
Actually, your guy wants you to crave his cum. He wants you to view it as the holy water of ultimate salvation, your elixir, your magic potion! He wants you to love it in you, and all over you. He wants you to want it on your tits, in your mouth, on your face, dripping down your leg, in your pussy, and in your ass. He wants you to want it everywhere! I’m just saying! Don’t shoot the messenger!
- He wants you to be really nasty and dirty.
Again, we have to change the meaning of words here. Nasty and dirty is a good thing! He wants you to crave his cock and his semen so much that you will lose all inhibitions and do all kinds of nasty, dirty things. Like what? Ask him!
- He wants you to love porn.
Any good slut loves porn. They just do. I know many women who love porn, and it totally turns me on that they do love it. Now, be careful with this one. Too much porn is not good for you or your guy. But now that you’re going to become your man’s total slut, he won’t need porn any more!
- He wants you to love his cock.
I already mentioned this one, but it’s worth having it by itself. He wants you to love his cock. Crave it. Love it. Want it in every hole all of the time, and your guy will never leave you!
- He wants you to love giving blow jobs.
Let’s face it. All guys love a great blow job. But you can add to his love of getting a great blow job by loving to give it! For your guy, there is simply nothing more exciting than seeing your beautiful red lips wrapped around his cock, sliding up and down. But when you LOVE giving a blow job, it really, really shows. It makes all the difference in the world to our own excitement.
- He wants you to know how to deep-throat.
The first time I had a woman go down all the way on my cock was amazing. When she did, she firmly and deeply licked my balls too and it sent me through the roof! You would have to learn to relax your throat muscles in order to not gag. So, go easy at first. But even if you were to try to do it, your man will love it!
- He wants you to be okay with him looking at other women!
Okay – this one is OUTSIDE the bedroom, but I feel very compelled to include it…
Just because a guy looks at and admires another woman doesn’t mean that he doesn’t love you! If there was ever one thing I wish every woman understood it would be this.
As matter of fact, the opposite is true!
The more that you accept and love your guy for being a man, the more he will love you.
Men are HARD-WIRED to be on the prowl for beautiful, hot women for most of their adult, sexual lives. It’s not our fault! We can’t help it!!!
It is totally normal for him to notice other women! But we know that some of our women are insecure, so we have to hide the fact that behind the scenes, when you’re not around, we are definitely looking. The only difference is that we then feel guilty about it because we know that you’d be upset.
So, the answer to this is to let your man be a fucking man. Do you have any idea how much he would appreciate you for allowing him to look at other women? Do you have any idea how much closer he would feel to you?
He doesn’t want to leave you and go be with these other women! He wants to be with you – that’s why he’s with you! But his primal instinct is to spread his seed into every hot girl that goes by!
So the next time a hot woman passes right in front of you two, turn to him with a big smile on your face and say, “Wow, she’s hot! Look at her!”
At first, he will probably look at you like you’ve just crashed the bachelor party. Then, he will see that huge smile on your face (with a smirk and a twinkle in your eye), and then he will nervously laugh. He might think that you are testing him here, or setting him up.
Have fun with it! To him, being able to be open and honest with what he is really thinking is the biggest aphrodisiac on the planet. Be prepared for him to want to ravish his new, open, honest, communicative, slutty partner!