In this article, I’m going to give you the low-down on how to keep your man interested in you. There isn’t just one simple answer such as get curves or anything like that. It’s more complicated than that, oddly enough.
Here’s what you can do to keep your man interested in you.
Be (More) Spontaneous.
Guys like surprises. We like it a lot when you do unexpected things. Why? Because it’s pretty much ingrained in us to love adventure, and that feeling of being surprised. Anything unexpected — that you assume would get a positive reaction, of course, is a good idea.
Don’t be afraid to sometimes take control and plan things. We kind of get tired of having to be the one to always plan things out, especially if you expect him to be the one generating the ideas. Find something new you’d like to do or try and convince him to go with you. Seeing that you don’t expect him to make your life interesting but that you’d rather do it yourself will be appealing to him and help him discover more about what you like.
One of my past girlfriends was great at this. She would plan little trips for us without me even knowing about it. It was always last minute, and very spontaneous. This is something that keeps a guy interested.
Get your own life.
One of the problems that I see in a lot of bad relationships is when the chick doesn’t have her own life. It’s annoying when I can’t even hang with my buddy because his wife wants to be right there with him all the time.
Get your own life. Don’t suffocate your poor bastard of a boyfriend. Have your own friends that you like to hang out with, and get involved in something other than thinking that your job is to be your boyfriend’s mother.
When you have your own life, you automatically relieve the stress of the relationship. You also add intrigue and interest. He will be curious about what you are doing and you two will have better quality conversations when you are together.
So, get a life that isn’t totally dependent upon your boyfriend. Do your own thing. Try to avoid each other if you feel like you are spending too much time together. Balance is the key. Another trick here isn’t just to be more interesting, but to be more interested in him and his life. Not in a “let me tell you what you should be doing with your life way” but in terms of actively listening about whatever is happening in his life and how he feels.
Do your own thing.
This is similar to getting your own life, but it is more of an attitude. The attitude that you want to have is that you are valued, important, and that you do have your own life. Emit this independent feeling to everyone around you, and your boyfriend will value you higher than if you are the co-dependent type. If you have a problem, go solve it.
Being independent means having your own interests that are outside of your relationship. It also means being able to handle responsibility on your own.
I hate to say this in a way, but you should always be prepared in case the relationship ends. It reminds me of those poor single moms who had always put their husbands first when they were married. In other words, they were NOT independent. Instead, they were VERY DEPENDENT upon their husbands.
But when the marriage ends for these dependent women, they suffer the consequences of blindly putting their faith in their husband instead of themselves.
Don’t do it. Don’t be dependent upon anyone. Of course, it’s great if you can count on each other, but don’t expect or make anyone else responsible for your happiness and future. When you do this, you act in a more interesting and attractive way. You are more positive because you feel like you have more control over your life — and a person like this is easier to love and talk to. A guy should feel that he doesn’t want to lose you and thus has to be interested in you in order to keep you interested and keep your attention.
The more you try to control him, the less he’ll do as you like.
A huge turn off for almost every guy is to have a girlfriend or a wife who is controlling. A controlling wife may take over the finances, make all of the family decisions, and pretty much be the one with the cojones in the family. She decides everything, and never let’s her guy be a man. Not interesting. At all. No guy can get turned on by such behavior.
The bottom line? Don’t be controlling like that. Give him the freedom to take charge – let him be a “the man.” Or at least make him think that he’s in charge and fill his primal role. The less you try to control a guy, the more interested he’ll be in you and the more he’ll work on proving his trust to you.
There are smarter ways to get what you want than nagging.
There is nothing more unappealing than to have a nagging wife or girlfriend. That is a huge turn off to every guy out there on the planet. Stop the nagging. Stop the complaining. Stop the fighting. Don’t nag him. If he forgot to do something, let it go for a few days and then see if her remembers.
Whatever you do, don’t constantly nag him — unless you want the relationship to end. Since this is one of the main complaints men have in relationships. At some point their long-term girlfriend or wife stop caring, praising, and starts being overly negative, critical, moody and angry. This all makes him less sexually and psychologically interested in you which creates a negative “loop” in your relationship that only makes things worse. This is where things like The Respect Principle prove to work perfectly.
This happened to me once: I had a girlfriend who was constantly nagging me and complaining, too. I finally threw her out of my house, and all the while she was still babbling on and on about how I never treated her right.
No way. That’s what I was thinking. I don’t want to live with a nagging girlfriend or wife, and I can’t think of a single reason why any guy would want to. Unless maybe if she was super hot (you have more leverage then).
But seriously, no one wants to have someone constantly nagging them.
Give Him Enough Space.
Every person needs space. We need space to gather our own thoughts, to think a difficult problem all the way through, and to get grounded and more connected.
So, when a guy asks for space, give him plenty. Don’t ever try to change his mind on this matter. Give him space or else he may have to end the relationship so that he can get the space that he needs.
Be confident.
Confidence is very sexy, for both guys and girls. The more confident that you are, the more interested your man will be. Why? Because when you are confident, you emanate that feeling that you know your worth, and you know your value. When you have a healthy sense of self-esteem, it gives the message that you are worthy, and people pick up on it.
Every guy wants a woman who is valued. So if you value yourself, others will too, including your boyfriend.
Don’t make him have to ask for it.
If you really want to keep him interested, be the one who initiates fun in the bedroom (and outside of it) more often than not. By taking the initiative, you set yourself up to act spontaneously with him. This spontaneous attitude will keep him interested in you forever, basically.
So, don’t be shy. Be ready to get down and dirty anytime. It’s the easiest way to keep a guy interested in you… (don’t believe me, ask some of the tens of thousands of women that applied my bj program) if you can give him pleasure beyond his wildest dreams. And you don’t even have to be a beauty queen to make him feel like he’s in heaven, just never make him have to ask for it.