The Secret to Getting a Man to Commit to You and Only You

So you found the guy of your dreams. He’s everything that you ever wanted in a man. He’s good looking, a great guy, he makes you laugh, he’s generous, and he makes you feel better than any other guy you’ve ever been with.

What can you do to get him to commit to you and only you? How can you keep him from straying or worse, cheating?

Ah – great questions. You’ve come to the right place because you know that I’m a straight shooter and I will tell you things that others won’t. No sugarcoating.

First, I’m going to tell you why men stray and cheat, and then I’m going to give you 5 secrets that you can do in order to keep it from happening.

Why Do Men (Actually) Stray and Cheat?

Men work on a primal instinct. Almost everything they do in life revolves is motivated by two basic things: food and reproduction. They need to “hunt” for food, so that they can eat and have enough energy to “hunt” for a woman he can reproduce with and spread his genes. Another reason he needs food is so he has energy to survive and fight off his competition. Even tough we live in the 21st century, these are still the most basic needs that motivate any man’s actions. So that’s why men continually need to get rid of their urge to a) eat and b) have sex. This brings us to a seemingly very “basic” (but extremely true and accurate) conclusion: they way to a man’s heart is through his stomach and his penis. I won’t get into your cooking skills here. Because that’s something he can get for money in any good restaurant (and it’s legal). The other thing he can’t get as easily (but he desires even more than food) is great sex.

When a guy is completely satisfied with his girlfriend or wife, he really doesn’t want to go out there and cheat, sure – he’s still designed to “spread the genes” in more locations, but he won’t risk it as easily and he won’t have that sexual need (since you already have that at an optimal level), and he certainly won’t need to stray away if he is happy in the bedroom. Your competition is terrible anyway, so you don’t even need to be that good (just better than his past experiences that he compares you to).

The problem comes when he isn’t happy with the sex that he is having and especially if it seems that there’s really no solution to the problem.

When a guy realizes that he’s not going to get what he wants in the bedroom with a woman, that’s when he starts to fantasize about other women. That’s when he starts to stray (if there’s too much temptation), and eventually, straying leads to cheating. No joke. That’s why the best way to keep a guy interested and committed is by being “The One” for him in bed. Guys are that simple.

So the bottom line is that men stray and cheat when they feel that their needs are not being met in the bedroom. This doesn’t mean you should be his slave or something… it’s just reality. If you want results, this is what works.

In addition, when the it gets boring or monotonous in bed, or when the guy feels that he cannot share his fantasies with you because you’re too judgmental about what he likes, those are all red flags of dissatisfaction which could lead to cheating, or him going cold or simply having second thoughts about your relationship and whether that’s something he’s interested in long-term.

The truth is that guys are hard-wired to want to have reproduce with every beautiful woman that crosses their path. The church invented monogamy and marriage to stop spreading diseases and keep the population under control, otherwise men would just stay nomads. Today, in his more civilized state of mind, he’s not going to sleep with every woman if he’s in a relationship that he values and that he can count on to block his natural urge to clone himself.

So, what are some of the things that you can do in order to get him to commit to you, without making him feel like he’s in a cage that he wants to break free from?

Here are my 6, proven to work secrets that you need to know if you want him to eat out of the palms of your hands:

Secret #1: Leave Your Competition in the Dust.

Yeah, I already mentioned this, but it’s worth emphasizing. When a guy is in a great relationship he’s not going to stray or cheat. What’s a great relationship? Communication? Nope. Sure, maybe on the 10th place of his list of priorities. If you can satisfy him in bed better than any woman he has ever been with before, you’ll have a lot more leverage and you can get away with a lot more. Men compare you to their past experiences and adult movies that mess up his brain. Those are your competitors. You don’t have to be the best in the world. You don’t have to be a beauty queen to make him feel like he’s in Heaven. What you need is to know (not guess, but know) the “moves” that make his mind melt with satisfaction in bed. Few women know this, as most of them get informed in junk magazines like Cosmo.

That’s why you need to study my step-by-step program (don’t open this link at work). There’s a reason why tens of thousands of women look at this program as if it was The Bible. It saved more marriages and relationships than you can imagine. But it’s not for everyone. The truth hurts, and if you’re not ready to hear what men are really like and what actually makes them go wild, then don’t click here.

In my entire life, I have never seen a guy start to stray from his relationship when he was truly happy in the bedroom. He too doesn’t want to mess up a great thing going, and so he’s going to stick with the woman who is keeping him happy. That’s the bottom line. All you need to do is leave your competition in the dust, and that’s easier than you think.

Secret #2: Don’t judge.

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Want to know why another woman may be able to lure him away from you? It’s simple. Because she will let him talk about what he really wants in the bedroom (and other stuff), and not judge him. As a matter of fact, the kinkier and nastier that he talks about what he actually likes, the more this home-wrecker is going to tell him how much that turns her on.

You have to be non-judgmental with your guy if you’re going to keep him. Give up any critical remarks, and resist the urge to tell him that you think something that he likes is gross.

We all change over time, and what you say is gross today may totally turn you on years later. Do your best to not criticize him when he speaks his truth about his real, true fantasies.

Nothing is better for a guy than to have a relationship with a woman who gets turned on by his fantasies no matter what they are, or is at least open to hearing them. That doesn’t mean you must act on them, but at least he can be open about it without being judged.

This brings us to another important thing… Respect. What turns a guy on the most is being able to “be the guy” in your relationship, all that is required from you is letting him take that role by respecting his opinion or actions without criticism or nagging. You may view it as “I’m just giving advice” but he’ll view you as if you are his judgmental mother that’s always trying to change who he is. There are better, indirect ways to influence him. When a guy is in a monogamous relationship — he is doing something against his nature, and when you add fuel to the fire, he’ll run away from you sooner or later. The secret is to make him feel as if he’s totally free like a bird, so he doesn’t feel like your relationship is suffocating his freedom. And the more freedom and respect you give him, the closer he’ll be to you. You should learn more about that in James Bauer’s fantastic Respect Principle. It’ll give you a better understanding of men and how our simple brain actually works.

Secret #3: (More) Open Communication

I think one of the worst things that couples do to one another is this: once they become a couple, they each worry that they may lose one or the other if they take any risks and actually tell the truth about what they want.

It’s really all fear based. In other words, if a guy was to have a one night stand, he can totally let loose, say what he wants, do what he wants and more because he’s not concerned about what that chick thinks. He doesn’t have to worry about what she’s going to say tomorrow because, well, she’s not going to be there.

So it’s a catch 22 situation. If you tell each other what you really like and don’t like, you risk ending the relationship if you two are judgmental. But if you keep clammed up about what you both really like and don’t like, you also risk ending the relationship because without being totally open about your desires, you won’t be able to make each other happy. Sometimes the truth is better even if it hurts. Maybe you can laugh about it later.

The point is that you need to get over any fear that there is and insist on open and honest communication with each other. And the easiest way to get him to open up is if you open up first and tell him what you like. He wants to make you happy, after all.

Men are quite dumb and practical, often too practical and not romantic enough… they just can’t read your mind. He needs instructions. Give him the manual and he’ll be happy to work on you day and night, as long as he’s not in the dark.

So what does open communication have to do with commitment? Well… Everything! As soon as you start pushing things under the rug, problems come up on all fronts, not just in the bedroom. At some point, men get tired of guessing and playing games, they do seek a challenge, but stability, too. And all sorts of games and lack of communication only makes a guy want to escape into a different reality… maybe out of the one he’s in with you, and away from commitment. Don’t let that happen to you. Be open.

Secret #4: Give Him Space – The Man-Cave Syndrome

All men at some point need to hide away from the world for some alone time. It can range from a day, to a few days, or maybe even longer.

So if your guy ever does this, you’re only going to make it worse by not giving him space. If he asks for space, let him have it. Don’t take it personally. He probably just needs some time to gather his thoughts together and the problem he’s going through may have nothing to do with you.

Or maybe it does.

I’ll let you in on a little secret… the more space you give him, and the more you trust him, the closer he’ll be to you and the less time he’ll want to spend away from you. Murphy’s law.

Secret #5: Be Naughty.

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Not just in the bedroom, of course, but in general.

You gotta get your naughty on if you’re going to keep a guy around. The more feminine that you are, the better. Naughty in a seductive way. In a playful, feminine way. It’s crazy what power lies in a woman’s seductive voice.

Did you ever wonder why “hot lines” are such a big business? Why millions of men still call those numbers and spend a crazy bunch of money to talk to (probably) chubby women with the voice of a 21 year old curvy college student that sounds as if she’s been released from prison and would jump him like a dog that needs to get sterilized?

Men have fantasies (naughty ones) of all kinds. From their high-school teacher to you-name-it. Role play is a big thing. And nothing turns a man on more than knowing how bad you want him. You know. Seeing that “hunger” in your eyes, the kind he sees in adult movies and hopes he’ll turn into reality.

So, when he asks you out to dinner, leave your panties behind and don’t tell him until it’s dessert time. Keep flirting with him even if it’s your 20th anniversary. You know, so he still feels like “the Man” as if he didn’t lose his mojo. Touch and tease him as much as you can without over-doing it (in public places). Text him something naughty during the day so he keeps thinking about you.

There are all kinds of things that you can do to constantly keep him thinking about you and only you. Not only is it a great way to connect with him, but also, it’s just plain fun. A lot of men complain that at some point, it’s just not the same. You take him for granted and you stop flirting with him. Men are in need of some attention, too. Praise, compliments. Mainly about his manhood, big biceps, or car-repair skills, whatever it is. Praise (with the right tone of voice) works like a charm. He’ll always keep coming back for more.

Secret #6: Get Him to Invest in You and Your Relationship.

Okay, this is going to sound a bit deceptive, but it works. Nobody will tell you about this. But the secret to getting a guy to commit to you and only you is to have him invest in your relationship.

A guy that never pays for anything, doesn’t open the door for you and never bothers to do anything for you in terms of time, energy, and money — that guy isn’t serious about your relationship and doesn’t deserve your attention. On the other hand, if a guy isn’t cheap around you and wants to “woo” you with dates, flowers, presents and so on (within his means) that’s a sign that he’s serious about you. At this point, the more he invests, the more he’ll justify to himself how much you mean to him and the more he’ll fight to keep that relationship working.

I’m not saying you should be manipulative in any way, of course not, but do test him to see how serious he is about your relationship. See if he’ll help you with stuff early on. Maybe you need to move to another apartment and could use his muscles.

If you leave your competition in the dust (as thousands of other smart women already have with my program), apply the Respect Principle, communicate more directly – on time, give him enough space and trust, act flirty, feminine, and naughty, plus get him to invest time, energy, effort and even money into your relationship – he’ll view you as “The One” and he’ll be ready to happily commit to you, without thinking twice.

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