There are a number of assumptions with this topic – for example, it is assumed that when you broke up, you were still friends. It is also assumed that he still has some contact with you to some degree – maybe you’re still friends on Facebook or whatever social media you use.
It’s rather pointless and difficult to try to make your ex-boyfriend want you back if you got into a huge fight, and he stormed out the door, swearing to never see you again, all the while calling you ever bad name he would think of.
In that case, don’t even try to get him back. Move on. There are many fish in the sea. Don’t go running to him and then asking for forgiveness, or asking for a second chance. That’s simply not worth your effort and time, no matter who he is or what happened. Move on.
But if you two had a cordial breakup, then you do have a chance to get him to want you back. If that is the case, then, there are a number of steps you can take to get him back:
Way #1: Change Your Look
This may seem like an obvious thing for you to do, but it works. Change your look. It will help you to feel better about yourself, and when he sees you the next time, trust me, he will really take notice.
Also, you may even want to do something that you wanted to do but knew that he didn’t like it – such as cutting your hair, or dying it a certain color that you like. If you do something that YOU really like for yourself, he’s going to think, “Hmmm. She did that because she feels I was holding her back from doing what she wants. Wow. She’s a free spirit.” That’s what he will be thinking, and that’s what you want. You want him to believe / think that you love and value yourself enough to do whatever the hell you want to do.
So, changing your look is a great way to get his attention, and to feel great about yourself.
Way #2: Feel Great About Yourself
Way #1 is part of this. The best thing that you can do in order to get him to want you back is to become as happy as possible, and more passionate about life than ever before. Why? Because he’s going to totally take notice of how happy you are. He will think, “Hmmm. She seems to be genuinely happy. I wonder what happened. Is there a new guy in her life? Did I miss something? Was she like that when we were together, and I just didn’t realize it? Did I make a mistake? Should I re-think this whole thing?”
Seriously, if you can get him thinking and wondering why you’re suddenly a happier person, he’s going to definitely take notice. Just be careful that he doesn’t think that it’s because you broke up with him. Let him find out that something happened in your life which turned you around – it could simply be that you started taking up yoga, or started working out, or that you started a new side business. Whatever it is, choose to be happy no matter what.
Men are attracted to happy women. Everyone likes to be around happy people. So, step it up a notch or two and be happy no matter what is going on.
Way #3: Start Dating Again
If you really want him back, start dating again but not for a serious relationship. Do a lot of casual dating. Whether you have sex or not is entirely up to you of course. If your boyfriend is the type of guy who could not handle that, then honor his feelings and don’t have sex. That will mean a lot to him when he comes running back to you crying like a little baby that he made a big mistake and to please take him back…
Just be careful with this. If you start to date guys he knows, it may drive him totally away because he may not have enough maturity to keep friends who want to date his exes.
Above all, use your own intuition on this point. You know best. If you think that it’s not a good idea to date others, then don’t. But if you know he is dating other women, then you definitely should.
Tit for tat. Don’t let it bother you if he’s dating others.
Way #4: Change
Normally, I’d never advise this. You shouldn’t change who you are for anyone. BUT, if he broke up with you because of something that was a legitimate gripe or problem, and if you want him back bad enough, why not change?
I had a girlfriend once who probably gained about 40 pounds in the year and a half that we dated. It wasn’t the weight that was so much the problem as it was how it felt that it didn’t matter to her anymore because she had already gotten me.
Guys freak out sometimes when they think of the future and what it’s going to be like. So, in my case, I figured that my girlfriend was going to keep on getting bigger and bigger in the future, with no end in sight.
I didn’t leave her for just that reason, but it was one of the main points.
If you know why your boyfriend really broke up with you, and it was a valid point, then do something about it. If it was because you let yourself go, then get in shape. Join a gym. Get fit. Feel great. Join some sort of a team and have fun. Get outdoors. Get some sun. Have some fun.
Change, not for him, but for yourself.
Way #5: Learn How to Give a Better Blowjob
This is where it really helps to still be friends. Imagine that you read articles or a book about how to give better blowjobs. BUT, oops, you don’t have a boyfriend around to practice on…
I about guarantee you that if you play your cards right with this one, he will come along, no pun intended.
After you learn how, let him know that you would like to practice on him to see if it works. I don’t know of ANY guy on the planet who, if approached by their ex-girlfriend with something like this, would say no.
How could he? And if he does say no, just shrug it off like it’s no big deal. Don’t say that you’ll just find someone else – that would get him mad. Instead, let him put 2 and 2 together. Let him imagine you giving new, amazing, hot, mind-blowing blowjobs to other guys while he sits there with his new girlfriend who doesn’t know shit about how to do it.
That will drive him nuts, and he’ll want to know what you’re doing differently. Then, before you know it, he’ll be wanting to get back together with you. And this time, because you followed all of these points AND you now give amazing blowjobs, he won’t ever want to leave again.